为什么......
Hm....Lets recap.
Last night met up with Eunise to chill @ The chamber.
We had a long and educative talks.
This bar is located @ Far East Square.
Their house wine is definitely worth giving a shot.
1 for 1 with acceptable sips.
Eventhough I am not a wine-fanatic or expert but I guess I am still able to know what is nice or too dry for my throat.
我们谈话的大部分是关于 relationship matters.
what I can say is I did learnt a lot from eunise but whether I can apply it effectively in my own life, it's another story.
Below are our discussion topics:
"As I am complaining about how I can't help Hubby on his work & I felt useless, and that's what she tells me"
Behind every successful man, is a WISE woman. She said: "sharon....a wise woman don't neccessary or even need to know about her man's work. All u need to HELP is making sure he has his time to FOCUS in his work, and when he is off-work, don't make him feel that coming HOME is like going for another BATTLE-FIELD @ night when the day-time battle is done.
Ensure he enjoys coming back home to relax WITH YOUR PRESENCE.....
Man tend to stray away when home becomes a battle-ground with non-stop bullet coming out of your mouth.
She said:
你知道为什么中国女人可以捕捉男人的心?
不是因为他们是好看 or better in bed......
It's because they R wise...Do U think most of them really love that old-fuggy or whatever man they are with?
Money, luxurious life is what they WANT! Thus it's their GOAL! with a goal..comes strategy.
Thus U have to set a goal!! Set your strategies based on your man's character.
These woman say only what man wants or like to hear eventhough you could have come across man telling you "Ai yah..I know it's fake or sweet-talk la"
But 往往 when they encounter it, they r so smitten into the sweetness.
Thus we have to learnt to control our emotions, only by controlling our emotions then can we use the right approach.
We are not saying that woman has to BOW DOWN to man.
We need to let them know where we stand & we mean business here.
It's all about approach. The right way, the right time and the right words.
Words r the most LETHAL weapon to hurt someone yet it's also the MOST EFFECTIVE medicine to cure a heart.
作为一个女人是不容易...
作一个聪明女人更不容易
As a woman, we tend to:
-not sleep with problems : we will demand to talk until the problem is solved.
-walk away from him or home when we quarrel
Thinking about it...what we really want is not solving the problems.
most of us enlarged and worsen the problems.
We only wants to "WIN" and demand for his ATTENTION!
When u walk away....be it u really want to or don't want to leave, at times U will be hoping that he would have stop you from moving away and plead for forgiveness or coax u to calm down.
All we wanted are things like:
-K la K la..Sorry la Dear....
- Don't be angry K my dear....
- blah blah blah
To a great extend I find all this very relative to most relationships even mine.
Which is Y most of the time we thought we WON. In fact we LOST!
I will work towards being a WISE woman from now on...For a better relationship, a blissful marriage and a easier life for myself too.
Recently me and hubby had a big tiff, the whole west coast neighborhood can hear our voice in the middle of the night. During the tiff..all that we were doing are insulting each other. As usual we will bring out the past and worsen the whole situation. The quarrel drag so long simply because no one wants to give in, we both stand FIRMLY that we R right.
In the end....both of us is too tire to continue the fight, the tone gets softer & softer..words becomes less defensive and offensive.....still no one apologise...Yet in the end we still ended up cuddling each other like nothing has happened.
I find myself a fool....Why I chosed to go through such a painstaking path just to end something that shouldn't even had started in the first place.
As for today, I went up to DBS to sign my OFFER LETTER.
I really hope I will perform well in this new job which will be commencing on 19 July 2010.
Need to stop my job-hopping habits. No more excuses to run away from work.
I must learn to love my job and my life.
Indeed the past few months was a major transformation for me as SUDDENLY:
- Lost a home
- Quit my job
- found a job
- Got a house
- Getting marry soon
It is part and parcel of life...but it ain't easy to cope with things that comes all at the same period.
Still I have overcomed all this....
明天会更好
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